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February 12, 2017

Faith, love and flexibility: Longtime married couples share all three

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By Ed Langlois, Catholic News Service

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Bill and Evelyn Schulte of Dodge, Neb., seen in a 2016 photo, hold a portrait of themselves taken on their wedding day in 1946. The couple, who are members of St. Wenceslaus Parish in Dodge, will celebrate their 71st wedding anniversary Feb. 12. (CNS photo/Kathy Kauffold, Dodge Criterion) See MARRIAGE-LONGTIME-COUPLES Feb. 9, 2017.

Bill and Evelyn Schulte of Dodge, Neb., seen in a 2016 photo, hold a portrait of themselves taken on their wedding day in 1946. The couple, who are members of St. Wenceslaus Parish in Dodge, will celebrate their 71st wedding anniversary Feb. 12. (CNS photo/Kathy Kauffold, Dodge Criterion

Editor’s note: This is part of a series of articles published by Catholic News Service to mark National Marriage Week, Feb. 7-14. 

NEWBERG, Ore. (CNS) — A common faith, thinking as a team, being flexible and arguing candidly but respectfully describe some of the keys to a strong marriage for Claude and Yvette Arrington, named Oregon’s longest married couple by Worldwide Marriage Encounter.

“We’ve had a super life,” said Claude, 95.

“We’ve always had God at the top and we let him decide,” added Yvette, 93.

The couple was married May 23, 1942, at St. Elizabeth Church in Van Nuys, California. Claude, who was raised Baptist, became Catholic before the wedding and says his faith provided a foundation for a good, long marriage.

He was born in Los Angeles, and Yvette was born in a small town near Winnipeg, Manitoba. By 1940, they were both at Van Nuys High School. They met there and married soon after graduating when it became clear Claude should join the Navy.

During his 20-month tour, the couple only corresponded with occasional letters.

Yvette, home with a baby girl, did odd jobs while Claude sent home what money he could. The household got by but without much to spare.

Claude’s ship headed to Hiroshima just after the atomic bomb was dropped. He and his shipmates were about to go ashore into the contaminated zone when orders came to leave the region. The vessel then picked up emaciated prisoners of war and survived a typhoon before returning to the United States.

The couple would have four children — three girls and a boy. Today, they also have eight grandchildren, nine great-grandchildren and three great-great-grandchildren.

They said they agreed on how to raise a family before they married.

“We did a lot of talking to find out our likes and dislikes, religion and everything else,” Yvette told the Catholic Sentinel, newspaper of the Archdiocese of Portland.

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Claude and Yvette Arrington, pictured in a Jan. 23 photo in Portland, Ore., will mark their 75th anniversary in May. They credit faith, teamwork, flexibility, candor and respect for their matrimonial longevity. They have been named Oregon’s longest-wed couple by Worldwide Marriage Encounter. (CNS photo/Ed Langlois, Catholic Sentinel)

To help make ends meet for the growing family, Yvette opened a home child care and eventually worked for the local school district. Claude became a mail carrier, but cleaned schools in the evenings and a restaurant on weekends. He delivered the Los Angeles Times early in the morning, including to the home of Liberace, the piano star.

On weekends, a relative would come watch the children while Claude and Yvette went on a date and in later years, they took longer trips. They have been in every state, plus Belgium and Canada and have been on a few cruises.

Through it all, they have kept lines of communication open.

“You have to talk to each other,” Yvette said. “If he doesn’t like something, he tells me. If I don’t like something, I tell him.”

The couple came to Oregon 11 years ago to be near their daughter, who drives them to St. Peter’s Church for Mass each weekend. Yvette belongs to the Catholic Daughters and has a deep devotion to Mary. “Our Lady has been very good to us,” she said.

Across the country in Nebraska, two couples — one married for more than 70 years and the other, more than 60 years — can tell similar stories of faith and perseverance that have seen them through life’s challenges.

William and Evelyn Schulte, members of St. Wenceslaus Parish in Dodge, Nebraska, relied on their faith during wartime separation, the death of a son, health issues and other challenges.

The Schultes were married Feb. 12, 1946, at Sacred Heart Church in Olean, Nebraska. But before that, William was away for four years during World War II, including two years in the Pacific theater.

“I thought the war would never end,” Evelyn told the Catholic Voice, newspaper of the Archdiocese of Omaha. “But we just trusted in the Lord and we went on.”

Faith also was a source of strength for William, who said he only missed Mass twice while he was in the service “and those were for legitimate reasons,” he said.

Frequent letters also sustained the couple during the war, many of which Evelyn saved.

“The servicemen really appreciate mail and always liked hearing from home,” she said. “That meant so much to them. You always felt for them because they were sacrificing a lot.”

Separation because military service also was a challenge for Richard and Barbara McMahon, members of St. Patrick Parish in Gretna, Nebraska, who have been married more than 60 years.

As they planned their wedding, Richard’s assignment in the Air Force was going to prevent him from coming home for their wedding date, so Barbara’s sister, Jane, who was planning her own wedding, invited them to share a double wedding with her.

The couples were married Aug. 18, 1956, at St. Joseph Church in York, Nebraska.

And they’ve shared their anniversary celebrations every year since. “We usually have a dinner out,” Barbara said, “and we had a big celebration for our 50th anniversary with an open house.”

The Schultes and McMahons shared similar stories of long, productive careers, hard work and child rearing, with faith always at the center.

After the war, William Schulte had a 30-year career as a mail carrier while Evelyn was busy at home raising their four sons and one daughter. They now have nine grandchildren and 11 great-grandchildren.

Over the years, William and Evelyn have often volunteered in their parish, William serving at weekday Masses, Evelyn bringing Communion to residents of the local nursing home.

And she remains active in their parish, leading the rosary every other Saturday evening.

Like most married couples, the Schultes experienced the joys and struggles of marriage and family life, including health challenges and the death of a son, regularly turning to the Lord in prayer, she said.

The McMahons, who raised one daughter and five sons, also experienced the loss of a child and share a similar commitment to faith and prayer.

“We’ve always had a strong faith ever since we were young,” said Barbara. “I don’t know what people would do without it. We pray every day for the strength to meet the challenges.”

Following four years in the Air Force, Richard McMahon worked 30 years for Union Pacific, and Barbara, once their children were raised, spent 27 years managing temporary employment agencies. They have 13 grandchildren and 12 great-grandchildren.

As the Schultes reflected on more than 70 years together, William said: “Marriage is just like a beautiful bouquet of roses, beautiful flowers but some stickers. You just overlook them and you work together.”

“There are always problems in life and we’ve had a lot of things you don’t expect, but you just go with it and you pray a lot,” Evelyn added.

Langlois is editor of the Catholic Sentinel, newspaper of the Archdiocese of Portland. Contributing to this story was Mike May, senior writer at the Catholic Voice, newspaper of the Archdiocese of Omaha, Nebraska.